Do you take time out? You need to consciously and self-caringly ‘take’ time for yourself. When I was younger, I didn’t have as much ‘me-time’. Weekends were taken up renovating houses and chasing financial success. From what I observe, our twenties, thirties, and forties are all about getting ‘ahead’ and preparing for retirement. The scales lean heavily toward work, work, and more work. Both men and women are stretched due to the changing roles and the combining of duties. Housework is no longer ‘women’s work’. Men are expected to chip in and lend a hand. This makes men more stretched. Women work both in and out of the house. This makes women more stretched. There is more reason than ever before to juggle work with fun.

If, like me, you are a working mum or dad, you will know that life has its demands. I have learnt to make a little go a long way. I take at least one hour for myself every day of the week. This hour is very precious to me. I either go for a run, which includes a very short yet much needed meditation at the half-way-point. Let me explain… I run in the bush, sit on a rock, and close my eyes in nature for ten minutes before running the second leg back home. Or.. I ride my horse. The hour spent on my horse completely feeds my ‘soul’. I have come to realise that if I get that hour for myself, I can deal with ‘anything’. When I go running, I process my ‘head stuff’, work out my next set of goals, plan my day, deal with any unfinished business, and generally just ‘blow off steam’. After my run, I can deal with the onslaught of life’s challenges and struggles.

Even if it means getting up an hour earlier or going to bed an hour later at night, you need an hour a day of ‘me-time’. If you really want health and wellbeing in your life, you have to create it. Nobody, and I mean nobody is ever going to come up to you and organise your life, making sure you eat well, exercise, nurture and pamper yourself. If you don’t do this for yourself, it is not going to happen. Be assertive about it; demand it if you have to, but make it happen. Schedule it in your diary. Block out one hour a day and then decide what to do with it. Start with what makes you ‘happy’ and what feeds ‘your’ soul. Being fit makes me happy, so running is a no-brainer for me. Riding my horse feeds into my spirit and re-charges my energy; therefore, riding is a must! Without these two ‘me-items’, I would not be a happy, healthy woman.

Give to yourself. You deserve it… Work is great but it’s not going to be your nurturer.